I've seen some of you on other admin sites i frequent so you may wind up seeing this post elsewhere Just curious on your ideas/thoughts & how you'd handle these situations. Background info: 17 years old Admin experience(6 months) Software experience: Forumotion, Mybb, SMF 2.0.2, Xenforo and IPB Current sites: 2(one with 233 members and 27,000 posts & the other is new) demographic: Mainly age 11-19(generally 12-17) First and foremost, I want to say that I do care and love all my members. I've been with these kids for 6 months and they are like a second family to me..and given the drama we've had. Our competitor shut our first site down and attacks on our current site(DDos) has made it apparent while part of me doesn't want to keep doing the admin thing, I do it for them. Not for me. 1. Moderator/Admin team I am the owner of my main site. I am usually the oldest member regularly on and active though there are some people who are older than me. My "Moderator & Admin" team(Notice the quote) consist of 13-16 year olds. I use the quotes because for all intents and purposes, they may as well be regular members with some special powers. For the most part they don't abuse their power but they also pretty much don't do anything else with them either. There are threads that need to be locked, merged, split, moved, etc etc. and yet they don't get done. I have to essentially make sure i am EVERY on the site at all times. We have RPGs(Roleplaying games) and there are set rules for the Rp but the Mod/Admins don't make sure the members follow them. Not to mention whenever drama happens(more on this later), instead of warning and then kicking and banning...they just sit there and watch. Or they just leave the chatbox. And don't let me criticize them or ask them to do anything because it is a problem and they act like you just spit on them. If you even say you are going to demote then, they'll threaten to quit. Then you have the members who beg daily to be mods/admins yet they do nothing to deserve said title and get mad at you when you explain to them. 2. Drama, Drama, Drama...Did i mention Drama? Happens daily.....Oh yeah & Drama Almost everyday there is some type of drama. It used to originally be my site vs our competitors which was fine...in a way it built team spirit lol but now it is member vs members There is an ignore feature in chat but people refuse to use it.....and then they are mad when someone hurts their feelings. Why not just use the button and ignore them? Hello...how hard is that? Then you have members who intentionally attack members just for entertainment value or those who seeks attention they resort to making up stories or exaggerations for sympathy. Then I am accused of letting drama go on...even if i am not physically there because i will not ban someone just based on what people tell me. I need some type of proof. 3. Bandwagoning This basically happens quite a bit. I'm gay and I had a member use a homophobic slur against me and I did react badly and result in a MAJOR argument that nearly killed the site. I originally just banned him for 2 days but the other members made me feel bad(even though he was wrong) and winded up unbanning him the same day. Then he came on chat acting as if it wasn't a big deal. It became me vs that member and his "group". Originally people were on my side and didn't care for him at all. Then out of nowhere, the very same people who claimed to understand why I had banned him from chat and why i disliked him just out of nowhere turned on me and were like it's not a big deal. It's just a word. THis went on for another few weeks until they came up with this idea of quitting my site and then trying to create their own website. Nearly 50% of my site quit all in the same day and the site almost died....a couple of days later they came back and apologies were made and i've since forgiven the guy and all but bandwagoning is something that pisses me off. Whatever the event is....they have a tendency to just jump behind whatever is popular and then switch sides. Even if sad drama had nothing to do with them. 4. Chatbox & Forum posting I wish there was a way to have chat messages be counted in the overall post count, I'd have about 10 million posts. My chatbox is very active(especially for drama) yet my forum activity is slacking. I don't mind the chatbox. It is easy to talk to people but when i try to encourage them to post at least 5 times a day, it's a big deal. I explained to them that if we don't post...we don't get new members. There are members who have been with me since forumotion all the way to the latest site(that is 6 websites) who almost never post. But they log in chat daily, spend hours there and do not post. What annoys me is when they come on the site to discuss posting on ANOTHER UNAFFILIATED website. I do have members who never come in chat and just post in the forums which i love but the ones in chat are my most active/daily members. I may as well just shut the forum down and just keep the chatbox up. So what would you do in this situation? It now marks 6 months that i've been with these people and as much as I care for them, I don't know what ONE 17 year old can do. It has gotten to the point where I don't even want new members simply for the fact i dont want my site to have a bad reputation.