So many popular people online seem to have the attitude of not caring to add people they don't know offline to their friends lists and such on forums and social networks? Seriously, I've seen this kind of message way too often, and quite frankly, it strikes me as kind of bad netiquette: Frankly, my opinion can be summed up as follows; if you only care for your friends offline and do things like ignore PMs and emails that aren't spam, then get off the internet and preferrably don't come back. But hey, I make it a habit to always add people to friends if they ask, to answer every question sent to me with a polite answer saying exactly what said person needs to do and to help out others. I think a lot of people online really need to act happier that they have fans and an audience rather than treating it like something to almost be ignored and resented. Anyone agree?
No. Some people just don't want to be that "out there" with their information. Sure you may know them well on a forum, but that's really it. You know them as "that person who develops that software" or "that person who is a high poster on that forum". People offline know the person personally, and probably know them better than anyone online ever could. Social Networks are personal, some people don't want to interact with people they meet online like that.
I don't add anyone on facebook unless I know them in some way - be it offline or through a forum. If I have no clue who a person is, I send them a message and ask them... if they've just randomly added me, then no I don't add them. There are far too many weirdos out there to be taking those kind of chances, especially when I have photos of my kids etc on there.
I don't have a Facebook account but if I did I'd only have about 10 friends as I wouldn't accept anyone I didn't personally know. I prefer to keep my private life private, and separate from my business life so my facebook account would only be family basically. For forum friend lists, I just accept any friend requests I get. I don't understand the point of forum friend lists, I never look at them and I don't post any information in my profile so *shrug* - it's just another list I never look at
I thought it was just me lol I don't like the random ones either the way I was raised it's rude lol I'm caught in the middle I help some and they add me but I prefer to keep info private for the most part, the only thing I can think of the buddy list are good for is on some sites it makes it easier to find that person if you have to pm them and don't remember the exact nick spelling
Yes, I agree. I accept what Az says about children and security - I'd do the same on Facebook - but one of the nice differences between Twitter and Facebook is the absence (on Twitter) of the snobby Facebook 'You're not in my gang' mentality. I'm hardly on Facebook but always laugh when I get that reaction. It's as if the person being snobby and standoffish is so important, so much in demand, that they must seek references in triplicate and a DNA test should a stranger give them an electronic poke. I mean, lighten up FFS. I'm not going to break into your house, shoot your dog, and mix up your CD collection!
Oh yeah, Twitter is a completely different scenario. I'll happily add people so long as their tweets interest me, whether I know them or not :banghead: You might
Oh god not my cd collection! Uh, It doesnt annoy me, I'm understanding of people they like their privacy. Thread titles like this annoy me :banghead:
Same here, I never auto accept random request from people to be friends, not unless I know them much more and want to add them as a result. Keep in mind that on some forums when you protect parts of your profile, accepting a friend opens it all up to them in some cases. So do you really want to auto accept any Joe as a friend, who's only intention might be to see your full profile only. It's all a bit of a "gimmick" I think anyway used on forums.
I never seem to get random friend requests on any sites other than on our own which I dont mind at all. If I did have a Facebook and receive random requests I would only be concerned if I had personal pictures on there. If not, I really wouldnt care if there wasnt anything too personal on there. What I find a bit stupid is how people will ask "Do I know you?", makes you feel like saying, "Im no mind reader, do you know me?". I think people should talk more online if anything, especially if you could earn/gain something from it that will benefit you even if thats just sharing knowledge.
I remember the days way back when.. well before the social internet. We were encouraged to write to 'penpals', in fact the school would add a list of, mainly European, pals. Personally I had a great time and met some genuine friends. I'm sure the initial intention of meeting new friends in FB was well meant. However it does appear to be the craze now to add, or invite, as many 'friends' without ever knowing who they are, will probably never answer, and so on. My daughter has over 2000 friends ! there is no way that she probably knows a third of them.
Well I don't accept all friend requests. But that is on facebook only. On forums I don't mind who is on my friendlist. More the merrier. If you don't want people on your friendlist, there is also a polite way to say that. You could say :::Hey thanks for the request, but I usually don't add people I don't know. So if you want to get to know me, throw me a pm::: You know something like that. There is never a good reason to be rude to people who did nothing wrong.
I myself have a separate FB account for my web activities, which, I have to confess, I use more frequently than my RL account. I've always preferred offline communication
